Does Everyone Know More Than You?

sad pug2Are you sort of down in the dumps because you’re sure that everyone else, whether it is in work/school/love, is so much more talented/confident/together than you are?

Well, here’s something to think about.

Most other people are not as confident as you think, and are probably just as unsure about things in their life as you are. This isn’t to say that there aren’t genuinely confident people out there who have their lives figured out (and golly gosh, I so want to be like them!), but even so, I’m pretty sure they didn’t start off that way.

So…here are three things to remember when your confidence is feeling a little hang dog…

1) Most people are just as lost/confused/unsure as you.

It can be pretty liberating to find out that most other people have the same fears and anxieties as you do. If you are dealing with new and difficult situations, it is easy to assume that others know some secret coping mechanism that you don’t.

But the truth is that most people, even if they don’t show it, probably feel that they are “winging it” just as much as you are. You can only plan so much in life, the rest comes at you and needs to be dealt with to the best of your abilities in the moment.

So don’t feel bad for not having all the answers, because few of us do. Just show up and face things head on.

2) The people who are confident and know what they are doing probably didn’t start off that way.

Of course, it’s not as if no one is an expert in anything. There are some people who have things together more than others, and walk around with the well-earned confidence to prove it. But keep in mind – they didn’t start off this way. No one is born an expert. They too started off with little experience, with questions, and probably with some anxiety. They just didn’t let all of that stop them.

Yeah, they probably made mistakes but so what?  See,  that’s the hidden secret.  The ones who make mistakes and keep going are the ones who build their confidence (and their expertise!)

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3) You are fully capable of rising to their level.

The key to remember is that with the same amount of experience, you too can become confident and comfortable in whatever you want to accomplish. There is no drastic difference between you and the people who seem to have it all together. We are all human, and we’re all good at different things, but we all also have the ability to learn, adapt, and grow.

So the next time you are feeling lower than a pug on a rug, remember that there is no unbridgeable gap between you and the people you think have it all figured out. Don’t let a lack of confidence keep you from going out, pursuing new things, and doing what you love.

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