Think Your Career Is Like A Bad Country Song?
May 10, 2011 by Wishcrier
Filed under Blog, Money, Marketing & Mindset Tips
Are You Singing the “Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down” Blues? Suffering for no good reason with desktop clutter, inadequate tools for the job, a too-chatty co-worker and a troublesome relationship with the boss have in common?
They’re all tolerations, the little and big things we put up with—often without realizing it—that sap our energy and drain our life force. Every time we tolerate something, we deplete the energy we could be using to grow our business or make desired changes or to simply experience joy. It’s like living with a low-grade fever or pain that somehow dulls our experience and zaps our full vitality.
When am I going to get to all that paperwork? Zap!
Ughhh. I wish he would just be quiet. Zap!
My computer just froze again—the third time today. Zap!
At the root of our tolerations are a variety of limiting beliefs that immobilize us. For example: “I can’t take the time.” “That’s just the way it is.” “Don’t rock the boat—play it safe.” “Don’t complain or be too demanding.” “It’s not that important.” “I have no control.”
There are countless limiting beliefs, yet they all serve to dampen our life force and keep us playing small. And, boy, are they exhausting!
If we are committed to creating work and personal life that is balanced and fulfilling, if we want to fully express our unique gifts and be of service, it is necessary to consciously evaluate and eliminate the tolerations standing in our way. Here are some ideas on how to do that:
Appraise. Make an honest appraisal of what you are tolerating in each of the areas of your life: environment, health, work, money, relationship and so on. Write down everything that annoys you or that you feel you are putting up with. You will likely come up with more than 100 of these tolerations! Yeah, it will freak you out, but how can you change when you don’t even recognize the problem!?!
Choose. Based on your values and goals, you now get to choose. What will you say “no” to? “Yes?” Make sure the “yeses” really excite you. Commit to making them real! None of that pamby, pamby, in your head choosing, either. Make this choice from the gut , from your center of gravity. Put your hand on your solar plexus, and repeat after me…I Choose, I Decide what I am no longer willing to tolerate in my life, what I am no longer willing to let drain me of my energy and my enthusiasm.
Plan. With the support of your coach, friends or family, develop a strategy for eliminating these tolerations. You don’t have to do it alone—in fact, it’s more fun to partner up or create a support team
Verify. Create accountability around your goals, with specific deadlines for eliminating tolerations. How many and which ones will you eliminate each day?
Evaluate. Examine each underlying limited belief that has kept you putting up with these things. Again, get support to help you break through them. You may be so close to some of these beliefs that you can’t fully recognize them for what they are.
Appreciate. Take an honest look at what you are getting out of keeping things as they are. There is always some kind of payoff for whatever is going on in your life. Who in your life—or what part of you—does not want things to change? Appreciate that person or part, and look for ways for it to be win-win for all concerned.
Request. Remember that complaints are usually unspoken requests. What requests do you need to make? When you hear yourself in that un-resourceful state of mind, gently ask yourself, “what is it I am REALLY saying here? What is it I REALLY want?” and then go out and make THAT happen…
As you eliminate tolerations, you will feel the joy of being at choice, an increase in your vitality and a sense of empowerment. And then YOU will be in the driver’s seat…and won’t that be a beautiful and worthwhile ride!
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